Dating and job hunting are one and the same

A quick search on Amazon for books about interviews pulled up 60,941 titles. At an average cost of $20.25 per book, that’s an educational value $1,234,055.25 spent every year for what should be the easiest part of the job hunting process.

The. Easiest. Part.

According to Forbes, the average number of applicants for a position is 118. That’s a lot of applicants to get ahead of in order to land that dream job. But it’s not impossible. Like any other long-term relationship, companies want to feel the spark. So when they post a new job offer, they search for candidates they think would be a good fit.

At first, it’s like Tinder

Almost literally.

We can spend hours poring over our resume and cover letter and application. We can delete every unnecessary period from our resume and over-think the font selection. Yet, at the end of the day, it ends up in a massive pile that either a computer or an actual human has to look over and quickly decide on.

We know that the average resume only gets looked at for about six seconds (which, for the curious, is this one second shorter than this video). We know that Tinder profiles only get looked at quickly, with not much emphasis put on depth and more put on an instant connection. Simply put, something in the profile that appear’s on a user’s screen has shout out “yes.”

Successful Tinder profiles convey a message of high education, good social class, and reasonable beliefs. Successful resumes convey high education, well-applicable skills, and a prior success through past struggles.

Recruiters have to essentially swipe left or right–rejecting or accepting applicants based on almost snap decisions about the candidate and how good a fit he or she would be for the company.

Then it becomes like

Recently, Match began hosting events for its members–offering cooking or mixology classes to get people off of their computers and into a situation where they interact with the real-world faces behind the profiles.

This is where the interview comes in.

The interview is a chance for the recruiters to put a face to the name. For potential future managers and bosses to meet a potential future employee, and for potential coworkers to meet. Nervousness makes sense. The interview is the time we would feel that all eyes are on us–that we are truly being judged.

Because we are.

But fret not, things are never as bad as they seem. Just like us, the company wants to make sure that we both would be happy. Going back to the dating profile. No one is perfect for each other. But some people are perfect enough. When dating, it’s important to hold on to those people.

So what does this mean for us?

It’s all in our head

Once we get to the interview phase, it’s clear that the company likes us enough to take us out on a date. From that point on, it’s all about talking business.

For us, our business is whatever we do in life, our career and our goals. The interviewer? Their business is us.

Our talents.

Our skills.

Our goals.

They want to learn about us in order to make their decision. Once we get the call about the big interview, the hardest thing we have to do is talk about us–some companies may even pull the greatest dating cliche and wine and dine us. Sure, some of the questions may be difficult. But the end result is the same information that a potential partner wants to know:

What are you good at?

What are you bad at?

How can you help me be better?

How can I help you be better?

Where do you want to go?

What things have you done in the past?

Was that so hard?

We already know they like us. All we have to do is prove to them that they weren’t wrong in choosing us.


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